I am unsure how to begin this blog. Mostly due to my emotional state of personal thoughts towards the individuals who were interviewed by MSNBC concerning Teen Mania Ministries and their program called The Honor Academy (TM/HA). I am so disheartened by the one-sided biased views of MSNBC's lack of true journalism. A journalistic program should portray their views in a unbiased format. In light of being an adult and a person of character I will say this: I am sorry to hear the stories of these 5 females who protray TM/HA in a negative manipulative cultic emotional stripping point of view. I am sure they have their own views and the professional counseling they are receiving will help them overcome their own experience. However, my goal is to present a totally different view. One that is represented by most of the thousands of interns who support TM/HA. MY own opinion is these individuals took no responsibility of their own, as adults and victimized themselves in this interview as emotionally stressed individuals who were undergoing therapy to help their emotionally distressed state of mind.
I am mature enough to understand that there will be individuals with their own viewpoint of their life experiences. Therefore, I am going to give my own viewpoint of TM/HA in a positive manner which is not associated with any other opinions/views but my own. And, because I am not a journalist, I'm only going to allow positive feedback to this blog. The other blog will only allow negative perspectives and does not support the positive feedback of thousands of individuals who have gone thru this program WILLING BY THEIR CHOICE. Also, I am not acting on the personal behalf of any certain individual at TM. I am writing this of my own will and my own conviction and therefore only allowing comments of support due to the fact there are other places to hear the negative. Its about time TM/HA have some support from people who are not cultic members but every day average joe's with real life experiences.
Now that I have completed my rant in a manner which is professional, I will begin my story. The story of Tiffany LaTerra and her attendance at TM/HA for 2 full years and a few months of volunteer during the summer months. Let me also say that both of my brothers attended and are normal with no emotional scarring as well as close friends who have attended with no personal scarring. I figure since MSNBC has decided to bring a biased, and in my opinion false view of TM/HA, I will voice the other side that they lacked in portraying, along with defamation of character, which in my opinion should result in a lawsuit if not a personal apology for their lack of true journalistic documentary.
Now, my story. It was the summer of 2001 and my brother was attending the HA the year prior. My mom had really wanted me to go to the program as well saying it would help build character and leadership skills. After volunteering in the kitchen, in part to get my mom to stop nagging me, as well to complete the internship requirements for my culinary schooling, I decided I wanted to stay to go thru the HA for one year. Because I am a religious person of the Christian faith, I will say that I really felt as though this is what God wanted me to do. I decided this one night when I was in a field in TX and the sun was setting and I was praying to God asking Him what I should do. During this time I felt like my next move was to go to the HA.
What is the HA like you may ask? Well in short because this blog would be so long to talk of everything, it is a program where you personally agree to not date for a year, to pay money to attend (just like other colleges or academy's or seminars), you are placed into an area of the ministry where you work as either a caller to get people to summer camps, youth conferences, or to attend the HA, or you work in the kitchen or part of the cleaning crew or you work in the IT department or the advertising department or the design department or you work on the landscaping department. Prior to going to the HA these things are described to you and YOU as an individual DECIDE or your parents DECIDE for you if you are a minor or if your parents just decide things for you then you know what to expect as you pay to go through this program.
There are staff members who teach world religions, character, leadership, are professional psychologists and also help women who have been sexually abused and need professional counseling to heal. There is at no point in any one event or day to day events that you are demanded to perform a certain way. There are psychologists for those who have been abused in their lives and need professional help. There is at no one time someone manipulating, or brain washing individuals to think certain one-sided ways or stripping individuals of their right to freedom of speech or to have their own mind and their decisions or opinions. TM/HA has not once in my experience ever been a secret cult or done anything that has ever made me feel degraded in one particular way or another. The leaders and staff members to my knowledge and personal experience have always help interns, staff, missionaries, and campers with decorum, integrity, dignity, and a true moral conviction to help others be better leaders in a Christian God-Fearing environment.
During my time there, they encouraged everyone to think for themselves. To formulate their own opinions. To go through life with character and to understand that when life is not what we want, to know there is forgiveness and grace to get through difficult times. After my year at the HA I decided to stay a second year and be a Core Advisor in which I would be like the dorm "mom" and specifically I wanna say my group of girls was about 26 or so total. I helped them through day to day stuff and also talked with them if they wanted to open up about their life experiences. If I felt they needed professional counseling by a psychologist I would recommend that they receive such help because we cared for people to heal over devastating life experiences.
I will send my children to the HA when I get married and have kids of my own. I 100% support the ministry and the events that you go through. Fasting is a normal practice due to the Bible stating how we as believers should fast. During fasting I myself would have to have peanut butter and crackers because I would get very faint and when I was an intern my CA felt it wise to make sure that I was prayful in heart and not fainting because of health. I at no time felt peer pressure or was told I was less godly or not a "good" intern. As a matter of fact my 21st birthday was a fasting Thursday and my core had a birthday cake for me at midnight and sung happy birthday to me.
ESOAL - The Emotionally Stretching Opportunity of a Lifetime. ESOAL, ESOAL, ESOAL. Let me begin by giving you a true fact that MSNBC seems to have left out of their "not-so-true" documentary. ESOAL, is a choice, a choice you make to purposefully go thru hell and back to test your emotional strength, religious strength, and physical strength. And guess what?! You sign paperwork saying you are CHOOSING to put yourself through hell on purpose. And guess what else?! I DIDN'T DO IT!! I thought "my God I am a strong woman and there is no need for that red mud to be in my hair and I have no desire to go through this." So what did I do? My day to day activities. I worked, I showered, I fell asleep on a mattress and went on with my own business. Did everyone else do it or was I the only one? No not everyone did it. Some felt the same way I did that it was not necessary for us or others were just scared and didn't want to do it. Who cares what the reason was?! Either you decide to go thru it for the challenge or you don't. Also, the events that occur in ESOAL are actually direct ideas or direct events or created events from the Navy Seals. Now if our soldiers who protect our country are trained in a manner that is stretching emotionally and physically then why not give every day average teens the same choice? They choose to do so or not, unlike the Seals where that is just part of training and therefore you have to go through training. You are allowed to get out of ESOAL at any time.They watch the physical health of all and have a nurse on duty. The events are in-your-face military type training experiences and highly recommended. Just like training for a tri-athalon or some other training experience it is not easy and not designed to be easy. After all, what if our soldiers were weak and had no backbone? Where would we be as a nation? What if we caved in when trials came our way and became weak and feeble? I'll tell you what would happen, we would no longer be the leading WORLD power. So my opinion on ESOAL is if you want to do it, GO FOR IT. If you don't then GO FOR IT! Just make sure you have some backbone to stand strong during life's trials.
Now this is a very long blog so far. But I will allow future interns, parents and media members to feel free to email me. My email is Tiffersha03@yahoo.com. I will welcome all questions of the HA and all concerns. Please know the views that I express will be my own and will have nothing to do with TM's direction or HA's direction or anything/anyone else. I highly encourage the attendance of The Honor Academy and encourage young people to go somewhere where they can form their own opinions, and grow their own leadership skills. Also the HA is not and I repeat is not a place, where if you as a parent have no control over your kid that TM will magically become you the parent. It is not a place to throw your troubled children and expect them to "fix" your child. It is, however, a program where you learn leadership, character, integrity all in a God-fearing Christian based environment. You have contact with your children at all times. You can ask them, at all times, how they are and what they are doing. You can stay with them for visits on campus and experience what they go through every day and you have full freedom to do whatever you will with your child or your child has their own free will to have their own opinions and their own experiences. They are after all adults and as responsible adults we must take responsibility for our own actions and life experiences and not blame them like victims on other ministries/humans/things. Life is life and things happen and its how we overcome trials or enjoy the up's that matters. Our beliefs/decisions form our life experiences and its our sole responsibility and none others.
12/8/11 update to post : check out this video to hear other stories of HA/TM alumni. http://youtu.be/brYSQvVsNTI
Tiffany LaTerra
Summer Volunteer 2001
HA Intern 2001-2002
HA CA Intern 2002-2003
Great read. I appreciate your point of view, especially your emphasis that interns did have a choice to participate.
ReplyDeleteI find it intriguing too that I heard all the time to "think". Look at the world around us and open up our eyes and think and pray and see it for what it is. Not just go blindly through it (like a cult would want). Thank you for sharing!
Without a doubt the MSNBC piece was completely biased and the two counselors seemed to be world renowned experts only in their own mind.
ReplyDeleteI was an intern in Tulsa and although I haven't been involved with TM for a while, I know the "heart" of Dave Hasz and Heath Stoner is to truly develop, coach, challenge, train, and equip, not to hurt. For me that is kind of the bottom line. I am a much stronger person, better husband, and more loving father as a result of having known them. Do I think that events like ESOAL need to be scrutinzed and evaluated, possibly changed? Yes... But if you've been on of Dave Hasz's facebook friends, it isn't like he turns a deaf ear to feedback and criticism. I've seen him intentionally ask for and answer hundreds of concerns over the years "publicly" with genuine care and concern--long before the MSNBC thing!
Think of what a "coach" is...he/she pushes you intentionally beyond what you think your best is to help you strive to higher heights. Some players hate the coach and some love the coach, but the coach's job is to push, challenge, motivate, etc... I think of Dave Hasz as a coach and unfortunately the MSNBC piece peppered in video footage from a retreat that lasts a few days to define a year long internship.
TM may need to evaluate the "fit" of individuals applying and maybe expect fewer numbers, but if you have ever been on a football team, spent time in the military, college, etc... then you have had similiar opportunities to be challenged beyond what you thought you could bare--to cultivate a resevoir to draw from for future adversities.
The US military faces this challenge all of the time and in all branches... Make training programs too difficult and people get "hurt"...make them too "easy" and then there is simply no training value. TM has attempted to introduce these types of training environments for young people to prepare them for life, ministry, the mission field, etc... Some might say the sacrifice of basic training is worth it in the military (because ultimately it is about life and death and protecting our country) But isn't being an effective Christian, minister, missionary also about life and death?
Don't get me wrong, I genuinely care for and wish the absolute best for those who have been wounded through their journey (before, during and after their time at TM.) I just think that there are far more people who have had positive experiences than negative ones and I hate to see this culture of "challenge" go away (for those who want it)...
God bless the girls on the MSNBC piece for their courage. However, Navy seal type training was probably not the best "fit" for them. Not their fault...
Having said that, hopefully there is a lesson to be learned through all of this and TM will grow as a ministry.
Anonymous I agree that navy seal type training is not for the faint of heart. I'm a very strong personality and what I consider a strong woman. So I just didn't want red clay in my hair lol but truthfully when I was a CA I knew what girls would not make it. And I encouraged each girl to make their own decision and "mama" would support them. I appreciate your opinion as I feel its well balanced and not emotionally victimizing. I also feel the emotional distress expressed in this documentary expand way past tm experiences and need obvious professional therapy.
ReplyDeleteThis is anonymous again...I agree 100%. And I applaud your decision not to participate. No doubt in my mind that the cast in the video had issues prior to their TM experience. And no question that the pressures at TM may have brought more out...but if I blamed all of my problems since I left TM on TM I wouldn't get anything done in life. ;-)
ReplyDeleteI would love to share my tmm ha time with you. Please look me up on fb or the Alumni site. Please. Brian aldridge
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing...I too had a similar experience at the HA that you did and it broke my heart to hear such a poorly researched/ biased story come out as truth. I support TM/HA because I believe in its cause and I am thankful for the affect it had on my life personally.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your point of view, Tiffany. I can hear the conviction in your words, and know without a doubt that you have good intentions and a sincere belief. I hope you take the time to read my post http://alovespace.blogspot.com/2011/11/ache-and-love.html, and hear those same things in my words as well.
ReplyDeleteBlessings to you.
Thank you so much for posting this. As a former intern I could not agree more with you!
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree with you more Tiffany! Never once during my intern year did i ever feel "forced" or "made" to do anything. Everything is/was a choice for me, by no means did anyone from HA take away my free will. The program changed my life, I have found now that if I hadn't of had the opportunity to spend that year at HA or had the people around me spurring me along I would not be the woman, wife, mother that I am today. It is not for everyone, it is challenging, but isn't that what life is? I am totally convinced that whatever my relationship with God is depends on what/how my life is like! Taking a year out of my life back in August 2002 changed me and gave me the tools that I needed to do the things that I have accomplished thus far in my walk with God, and has helped me to get through some pretty dark times! Thank you to everyone at HA for what you have done for me and continue to do for every intern that is there now....Thank you Tiffany for starting this blog!!
ReplyDeleteThe HA was one of the best years of my life. I loved every minute of it, I love their emphasis on character and integrity. MSNBC IS A DISGRACE, they are SUCKERS for non-sense and seem to like to encourage the minority. The minority might be louder than the majority, but it doesn't make their claims any more true then the claims of the majority. I don't think anything has ever existed that was liked by everyone. I'm sure some people hate Coca-Cola, but that doesn't change the fact that it tastes great, it just means a few people think its gross, but you don't make a tv episode about how Coca-cola tastes gross, that would be an un-founded conclusion, just like these few interns with serious issues and loud mouths.
ReplyDeleteI had at great experience in the HA. I was an intern and served two years with Teen Mania. Yes, it was challenging at times. Hiking Pikes Peak was crazy hard, but I have a great testimony of how when I am weak God is strong. I even met my husband at TM and we are happily married going on ten years now. I would choose to do it all again if a could.
ReplyDeletehow many stories in the bible would you call abusive or mind control. Matthew ch 4 Jesus was lead by the spirit of God into a desert to be tempted by the devil. He asked him do it for 40days and 40nights... we would see it from love as willing... but if you see it from a wounded place God made him do it... think about that for a little bit. Just one of many things God is showing me through all this. God is bringing out wounds in people. Interns and alumni are getting stirred up for a reason. what the enemy might do for evil God will use it for good. Attitudes are coming to the surface people might get nasty but God is revealing things in the process for a purpose. Its Gods ministry he can do what he wants to do. Blessed are you when people say all kinds of evil against you blessed are you when you are persecuted... God has a reason a plan and a purpose in anything that can happen. Dont get caught with your eyes of of Jesus....
ReplyDeleteI agree with your thought process..... but in war a king is nothing without his troops support. Moses would not have been able to keep his hands held high without the help of the servants. So as it is Gods ministry and there are definite lessons to be learned from both happy and unhappy interns or alumni, its pertinent that when blatant falsified hyper emotionalized sensational bogus accusations arise, we must stand by TM side. Ron, Dave and countless others sacrificed for us and total strangers all over the world and I feel morally compelled to speak up and speak out. It's our duty to go with god. Faith without works is dead and as such the ministry is gods but we must stand when its time to stand.
ReplyDeleteGreat input thank you bobkitty
Sorry. Phone typo. Thank you bobkiddy.
ReplyDeleteI still don't know how to feel about the HA. I was accepted and then went on a GE trip and wasn't treated with love or grace. So I am not going. I knew the rules, and agreed and obeyed all of them, and yet, I wasn't good enough for my MA or the interns, even when I knew the Bible just as much they did. But thank you! I like hearing both sides a lot. :)
ReplyDeleteYou Don't Know Me,
ReplyDeleteLet me just say I am so sorry to hear that. You know I am a very strong type of personality and I did experience the high and mighty attitude that can come from interns. I don't think its purposeful but it is annoying just the same. I ignored it and when confronted for silly things like how I as a female walked or for wearing my bra in the female dorm room, I just laughed it off as petty and silly. You know the heart of the HA and what I believe the heart of TM staff like Ron, Dave and Heath is to help interns grow closer to God and deepen their religious Christian beliefs so when we face controversies or adversaries we can stand against it with love, dignity, character, and integrity. But there is not one person who will ever be responsible for our life experiences except for us.
You don't know me, I think you should pray about going and be open minded to it. The program is designed to give interns a backbone and to make their own choices and decisions because as adult you must be able to formulate your own opinions with peer pressure.... whether the peer pressure is positive or negative you as an individual must stand on your own two feet! So please, ignore the high and mighty individuals who may be spiritually proud, and realize life will be full of pious people both religious and non religious but remember that there are so few places left in this world where you will find the best friends of your life, be encouraged in the things of a Christian god, learn how to be a leader filled with character and integrity and how to keep your dignity in tough circumstances. Life is great at TM.... it was much harder for me after..... as my family lost our possessions, and lost my mom to a horribly long yet short battle with terminal breast cancer. We have been thru hell and back and I will tell you the character TM reinforced in myself and my brothers helped our family get through our darkest moments....my parents were/are amazing god fearing individuals as well.
You can email me if you wish at tiffersha03@yahoo.com if you wanna ask me more Qs about HA. I highly recommend going.
Take care
as a mother of a ha student i want to say thank you for presenting the other side!!!
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You're welcome :)
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